12. Modern Mom Friendships: How to Find Your Village

Welcome to another episode of Caffeinated Chaos! This week, we’re diving into one of the most challenging yet rewarding parts of parenthood: finding your village. Whether you're managing snack time and spreadsheets or simply trying to make it through the day without losing your coffee, this episode is for you. 

What We Covered in Today’s Episode:  

• Why making mom (or dad) friends as an adult is hard and how to navigate those awkward first moments.  
• Real talk: showing up to a mom group and feeling like the new kid in the cafeteria.  How to turn small talk into meaningful connections.  

3 Practical Tips for Building Your Village:

1. Show up consistently: From storytime at the library to local Facebook groups, showing up regularly helps turn strangers into friends.  
2. Lead with vulnerability: Sharing your struggles—like your toddler’s meltdown this morning—can open doors to deeper connections.  
3. Combine business and friendship: Use your business as a way to connect with other parentpreneurs through workshops, collaborations, or casual conversations at drop-offs.  

Key Takeaways:

• Friendships will look different in every season of life, and that’s okay.  
• Your village might be a playdate buddy or a text-away confidant. Whatever it looks like, building connections takes time and effort—but it’s worth it.  
• This podcast is here to be part of your village too.  

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Transcript

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Hey there, friends. You know that they say it takes a village to raise a child. Well, I've been looking for my village and I think it's lost somewhere between the laundry pile and the drive thru line at Starbucks. Let's be real. Making mom friends as an adult is hard. Like, you're supposed to connect with someone in the five minutes between chasing your toddler at the park and answering work emails. Add in the chaos of running a business and well, it's a miracle that we even have friendships at all. Today, we're going to talk about how to find your village in the midst of a beautiful chaotic world that you live in. Okay, tell me if this sounds familiar. You're trying to join a local mom group and you thought, this is it. I'll find my people. And then you show up and everyone seems to already know each other. And Let's be real, you kind of feel like that new kid in school in the cafeteria. You're holding your tray, searching for a seat, and you just don't know where to sit. Here's the kicker. It only takes one parent, one mom, one dad to start chatting with you, and then you can bond over how awkward this whole thing is. That's the kicker. But fast forward, that person might end up just being the person you call when you need to laugh, when you need to vent, when you are trying to figure out what are the best ways to get your kid to finally start potty training. It takes time, effort, and definitely, maybe, just a little courage to put yourself out there. All right, so let's get practical. Here are some ways that you can start finding your village because let's face it. We all need people who get what it's like to juggle snack time and spreadsheets. Show up consistently. That's number one. Whether it's a weekly library story time or a Facebook group from local moms, consistency matters. People will start recognizing you and over time, those casual small talk hellos turn into actual real conversations with depth. Two, lead with vulnerability. If you're always saying, oh, I'm fine. Don't worry about it. I'm fine. People won't know when you actually need support. Try sharing a little more like maybe you barely made it there because your toddler was having a meltdown. Tell people it's okay. We all get it. You'd be surprised how quickly honesty makes others feel more comfortable about opening up to you. 3. Combine business and friendship. I do this a lot. If you're running a business, use it as a way to connect, host a casual workshop, partner with another mompreneur or dadpreneur, Or just chat about your business at school drop offs. It's not just about networking. It's about building relationships with people who understand where you are in your life and all the things you are juggling. Okay. Here's the thing. Friendships look different in every season of life, and that's okay. Maybe you're texting a friend you haven't seen in months, or maybe you're building a new friendship one playdate at a time. Whatever it looks like, remember that you're not alone, and this podcast is here to be a part of your village, too. We have so many guests coming on who are both moms and dads of littles, teenagers. We have it all, and I can't wait for all of you to hear their inspiring stories. So, now I want you to think about who's your person right now. And if you don't have one yet, that's okay. Your village is out there. Before I go, I just want to share something that's exciting that we are starting. So we are going to have a new segment called sip and share here on caffeinated chaos. And this is your chance to be part of the podcast without having to do a full episode as a guest. So do you have a chaotic moment that you're dying to share? Maybe some advice that helped you survive the madness of parenting business or just life. Or even maybe it's a tip about how your day went just a little smoother that maybe others need to hear. Well, this is your time to shine. Here's how it's going to work. You send us your stories, tips, or advice, and I'll read some of them right here on the podcast. And if you're thinking, oh no, I don't want everyone to know that it's me, don't worry. You can totally submit anonymously, and I will be the voice reading it anyway. Okay, so the link to submit is in the show notes, just scroll down, click the link and share your chaos with us. I can't wait to hear everyone's stories and give you a shout out or keep your identity a secret. I got you. Let's turn those wild, messy, inspirational moments into something we can all laugh about, learn from, or just feel a little less alone about. So don't forget, head to the show notes, send in your story or advice, and maybe you'll hear it on the next episode of Caffeinated Chaos. Okay, if this episode resonated with you, I would love it if you shared it with some of your other mom friends and leave us a review. Like I said before, it really helps our podcast get out there and into the hands of more people. When this episode releases, we would have officially finished our first month of running this podcast. And I am happy to say that to my surprise, and I'm quite honored about this, that we were able to reach 250 downloads from just this first 30 days. And so I never thought in my wildest dreams that people would be listening to this podcast so much, but here we are. So yes, please, if you like this podcast, please follow it. Send it to your other friends and leave us a review. It really does help. To keep us going and to get this podcast out to more people. Okay, we really appreciate everyone who's listened so far. We appreciate even if you are just starting with this episode, there are so many great ones. I will link some of my favorite down in the show notes, but episode seven about burnout, episode nine with Cassidy, and episode 11, which was just right before this one. With Dr. Monica Mora. If you have teenagers, you should definitely you listen to that episode as well. Okay? I will see you all on Monday for another guest interview and just have a great weekend everyone. Bye